Your Twenties is for Experimentation: What do YOU want?

Because that’s oftentimes when people start laying down the foundation for their future — marriage, career, kids. You don’t have to want any of the above — but you also need to start thinking about it proactively, lest you fall down a rabbit hole and then look back and wonder how you got here, this isn’t what I really wanted…

Which is fine, that’s why they invented divorce and career changes. But it’s also just a really good exercise to keep asking yourself this question along the way because we change, our minds change, and we get to change our minds!

As the Lady Dowager (actor, Maggie Smith) says in Downton Abbey to her granddaughter, “I'm a woman, Mary. I can be as contrary as I choose."

Next: Why it’s hard for us to figure out what we want.

What do you want? A red Tesla? Mmm…

I tried soo many things in my twenties. Some good; some not so good. But I would never have learned from the not-so-good things if I hadn’t tried them. It’s just not quite the same when some adult tells you — “I don’t think that’s a good idea.” Oh, OK then.

So I tried things and that was good. I loved and lost. I moved from Boston to Hawai’i. From Hawai’i to New York City. I waitressed; I freelanced; I worked corporate.

In the midst of everything, I was also figuring out what I want. And that’s what I’d like to pose to you here. If you’re in your 20s or even in your 30s. (Heck I’m in my 40s and still figuring out what do I want — it’s an ongoing journey). But in your 20s and 30s, I think it’s especially crucial to figure out what it is you truly want.